This time of year people usually start to make plans for what they want to make of their time in the coming months and begin to muse on how to go about making that manifest. But for some reason the concept of endings has consistently been pushing its way into my awareness recently, so I feel the call to reflect upon it.

It has come to my attention more significantly, how our culture has a difficult time with endings. We seem to rush through them, if not bypassing them altogether, as if we are in a hurry to begin the next “item on our list.” However I believe that it is the thoughts and feelings, which accompany endings that we might be avoiding. With the ending of relationships we frequently experience grief, disappointment, heartache, and perhaps judgment that we failed. Yes, these thoughts and feelings can be unpleasant, but they are a part of the human experience. They make us who we are, as beings with minds, bodies and hearts.

All of these experiences are important to look at, for they show us more about who we are, where we are now and the direction we are heading. By consciously moving through an ending without avoiding any aspect of it, we can bring more resolution to the experience and our life as a whole.

In my practice I work with couples and individuals who struggle in their relationships, and come looking for help and support. It is important for me to let them know that I am not here to save their relationship, but to help them find their own way to resolution; and sometimes that resolution means ending the relationship. When that is the case, bringing more consciousness to the couple through the dissolution of their relationship can allow more healing for each of them. Many people end relationships in anger and pain, and dwell on that suffering for quite a while, but it doesn’t have to be that way.

It takes courage to truly look at oneself through the process of any kind of ending. Moving through these processes consciously can bring a greater understanding of yourself and help you bring clarity to what is on your horizon.

– Nick Venegoni, MFT

Although it’s been unseasonably dry here in Northern California, perhaps we can invoke some water with these soothing sounds of flute and rain stick. “Monsoon Rain” from Archibald Bismark.

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More immersive soundscapes this Friday. In his own words Steve Swartz makes “Ambient sound, noise, recording experiments, etc. from deep within Detroit”. Perfect to ease you out of the week, and in to the weekend. Enjoy today’s Soothing Sounds.

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This time of year can be difficult for some: the nights are long and our moods may darken, or the bustle of the holidays can be stressful on the mind and body. But the winter can be a wonderful time for reflection and introspection.

This is a drop-in class to learn skills for reducing stress, anxiety, depression and anger during challenging times in your life.

$5-10 suggested donation: no one turned away.

Thursday, December 15th @ 7PM – 8PM

The MCC – in the Castro
150 Eureka Street, between 18th & 19th Streets
San Francisco, California 94114

Personally I find music and ambient sounds to be very relaxing and soothing to my senses. Because I work with many people who are stressed by every living and a variety of anxieties, sound can be a quick and effective way to soothe the soul. Here is my first installment in Soothing Sounds. This is an audio sample from the nature sound album: ‘Dawn Chorus: Australia’s Inland.’ I especially like listening to this one in the morning with my first tea, to welcome the day. Enjoy!

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Tuesday, April 26 · 8:00pm – 9:30pm

SF LGBT Community Center
1800 Market Street
San Francisco, CA

Are you struggling with life stressors such as unemployment, finances, or relationships? Learn mindfulness skills to help reduce stress and get anxiety under control.

Open to all Gay/Bi/Transgendered men. Sponsored by SNAP! of the SF LGBT Community Center, and facilitated by Nick Venegoni, MA Counseling Psychology. Nick has been practicing mindfulness and meditation for 10 years now and enjoys guiding others to deeper places in themselves in order to facilitate personal healing.

This is a FREE Workshop.

The Mindful Path: FREE Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Class

Are you struggling with life stressors such as unemployment, finances, or relationship concerns?

This is a FREE drop-in class to learn skills for reducing stress, anxiety, depression and anger during challenging times in your life. Each class will build upon the previous ones, though attendance is welcome at any point in the series.

Open to ALL – We will meet six Tuesdays in a row from 5:30-6:30p
Beginning Tuesday, April 12th through May 17th.

Location: The MCC – in the Castro
150 Eureka Street between 18th & 19th Streets
San Francisco, California 94114